Tuesday, November 1, 2016

Be a Winner

My first experience with the Law of Attraction came before I had even heard of it, much less understood it.  The year was 1957 and I was in high school.  A local independent store, Bill’s Ranch Market, hosted a raffle to win a new car – a 1957 Mercury Marquis.  Every time a customer made a purchase at the market they received a raffle ticket to place in the giant bin.  It was a beautiful car, and judging from the traffic it produced, it appeared to be a successful promotion.

The day of the raffle, my father and I went to the store parking lot along with Dominick, a family friend, and joined the many other customers.  Dominick was a personable guy and engaged in banter with anyone who would allow it.  He told everyone he came in contact with that they might as well go home because he was going to win the car. His exuberance was entertaining, almost to the point of being overwhelming.  Of course, nobody agreed with him, and many just courteously ignored him, saying nothing.

He told several people that tomorrow he was going for a drive in his brand new Mercury Marquis along Pacific Coast Highway to celebrate his win.  That was his dream and he held on to it and repeated it whenever he could.  One man in particular, however, stands out in my mind.  When Dominick told him he should go home because he wasn’t going to win the car, the man said “you’re probably right.  I never win anything anyway.” I wondered why he even showed up for the drawing with that kind of losing attitude.

After some hoopla, it was time for the drawing.  The bin was twirled and the thousands of raffle tickets mixed.  A ticket was drawn and the store manager read the name.  It was our friend Dominick.  He said “I never had any doubt.  I just knew I would win – and I did!  Tomorrow, it’s off to Pacific Coast Highway for that long ride along the ocean.”

Dominick knew the key to making the Law of Attraction work for you.  Whatever it is you want, you need to imagine it, place it in the forefront of your mind, act as if you have it already, enjoy it, play with it, and live it.  Make your connection to it so strong that it becomes difficult, even impossible to determine if it’s already in your possession or still in your mind.  Every day we have choices.  We can be happy or sad; we can be positive or negative; we can choose to be winners.  That’s what Dominick did – he was happy, positive and a winner.



The Power of Positive Believing

While in a store I overheard a lady ask a clerk “You don’t have any sun screen, do you?” The clerk answered “No, sorry.” I thought it odd that this mass merchandise store would not carry sun screen, so I decided to try an experiment. Choosing a different clerk, I asked with a smile “Where might I find the sun screen?” The clerk directed me to the correct aisle and even told me which shelf it was on.

My left brain started thinking.  When asking a question in the negative (You don’t have any, do you?) we are setting ourselves up for a negative response. The person being addressed senses this and gives us what we have asked for – a negative response. With an open, positive question, delivered with a smile, we have a better chance of receiving a positive answer.

Imagine someone approaching their boss with “You don’t want to give me a raise, do you?” Point made.

A positive mindset is a critical element in attracting what we want in our lives. For the laws of attraction to work we must go beyond the power of positive thinking – we must practice the power of Positive Believing. First we must think about what we want, picture ourselves having it, enjoying it, appreciating it, sharing it and loving it. Did the customer really want a bottle of sunscreen? Or did she really want something more? What if she had pictured herself on the beach, basking in the island sun, coconut trees swaying in the breeze, enjoying a drink with an umbrella in it, getting a great tan, and thankful she had stopped in the store to purchase the sunscreen?

My wife and I were planning to go to a new restaurant for dinner that night. We decided to take Positive Believing one step further. Before we left home we imagined ourselves driving into the parking lot at the restaurant and getting rock star parking. As we walk in, the hostess hands my wife a rose and seats us at a window table overlooking the water below. Our waitress arrives with a smile which we return, greets us, and provides the best service. All offerings on the menu sound so good we have tough choices. Then I notice one of my favorite meals on the menu. The salad arrives. It’s crisp and tasty with a special house-made dressing. The entree is hot and sumptuous. The dessert is sugar and calorie free and tastes wonderful. We are content, feel terrific, and are smiling from ear to ear. And we haven’t even left home for the restaurant yet!

Notice that we are living the experience in the present as if it were happening right now. This exercise put us in a proper mindset to attract what we want. The evening did not go exactly as planned – it was even better.  When we drove into the lot, a valet opened my wife’s door, welcomed us and parked the car. We had a wonderful evening with great food and superior service at a window table – exactly what we had manifested. This is the power of Positive Believing. I guarantee this will create a better experience than the person who sets himself up for failure by asking the hostess “You don’t have a window table, do you?”

Originally Published in Meta Arts Magazine, February, 2011

Wednesday, October 26, 2016

COMMUNICATION WITH THOSE WHO HAVE PASSED?

Among the questions that haunt our minds are “What happens after I die?  Where will I go?  Am I able to see my loved ones again?”  I recall the day before my father passed away, he was lying in bed and knew what was about to happen. He just looked at me and said “I guess I’m about to find out what’s next!” 

Abraham-Hicks tells us that when we pass on, it is similar to passing through a doorway from the earth plane to another dimension – from matter to energy.  Einstein tells us energy and matter are interchangeable.  Perhaps death is merely changing from our earthly matter into an energy form.  With that in mind…

Every July Ramona and I invite our good friend Eddie Conner into our home to conduct seminars and provide intuitive readings for our friends and members of our Law of Attraction group.  The 2015 seminars started with one entitled “I See and Hear Dead People and You Can Too”.  I admit I was skeptical, but in our fifteen years of hosting Eddie, he has never led us astray, and I’ve learned to go into new experiences with an open mind.

During his presentation Eddie pointed out that we may be experiencing visits from our dearly departed already, but we are not in a frame of mind to recognize them.  We just need to open our hearts and minds and use our non-physical senses such as our third eye to visualize the spirits with whom we desire to make contact.  At the end of the session he provided one of his inspiring meditations designed to allow us to recognize the visits we receive from loved ones who have passed. The meditation included an exercise of seeing a door, opening it, entering a large room, and visualizing the people with whom we want to communicate.  I had selected my mother, my father, and my best friend John. I felt my father had already contacted me by waking me up several nights at exactly 4:19 AM.  The house number of his home was 419, and his initials are “A.M.”  I was dismayed, however, that I hadn’t felt any contact from my mother or from my best friend, John.

As instructed, I placed myself into a meditative state and proceeded through the doorway. I saw some figures ahead of me, as if they were at the end of a grand ballroom.  I honed my senses to determine who they were.  I saw my mother, my best friend, and my father - in that order. I was confused because my mother and father were not standing together even though they were married for sixty-eight years and very much a couple. The figures did not talk, but in a stream of consciousness, they made known to me that they were standing in the order in which they passed away.  This was not something I included in my desired visitation, but their order was entirely accurate with my mother being the most recent to pass.

I asked my mother why she wasn’t communicating with me.  I had feared she was angry with me because I had paced her in an assisted living facility for the final three months of her life.  Her consciousness said that was not the case – she now understood her dementia and failing health forced the situation.  Then her consciousness made me realize she has been visiting me.  She was known as being a good cook and always making sure everyone had enough food – usually too much to eat.  Whenever I see or hear about Italian food, that is my mother’s presence letting me know she is with me.

My best friend John and I met in the fifth grade when his family came to this country from Scotland. We were friends from the day we met until his death.  During our time together we seemed to know what the other was thinking or even going to say next.  We were connected at a higher level.  But I hadn’t felt any contact from him since his departure from the earth plane.  His consciousness told me he is in fact hanging around me and I can recognize him whenever I hear about Scotland or see something Scottish such as bagpipes, kilts or any Tartan design.

Next I looked at my father who merely said “I’ve already sent you messages that I am alright. They’re the numbers you see!”  I knew what he meant.  He was always a man of few words and it looks like that didn’t change with his death.

That’s when I noticed a fourth figure, a much smaller amorphous shape next to my father.  I was surprised. I had asked for three people and here was a fourth.  Who was this?  His consciousness said he was the one who has watched out for me all my life, the “little boy” on my shoulder guiding me and keeping me out of trouble.  It was the baby my mother miscarried before I was born – my big brother.

Before I could thank him, I noticed a sea of hundreds of faceless “stick-figure” heads behind the four people. “What is this?” I received an immediate message form their consciousness. As a hobby I research the genealogy of our family and have identified several hundred relatives and ancestors, most of whom I have never met or seen, not even photos.  The message was that they are the ancestors upon whom I have been doing research, and they thanked me for the effort to identify them and preserve their memories.

That night I went to sleep and had a vivid dream.  My mother was placing Italian food on the dining room table – antipasto, macaroni, cannoli and more.  My friend John was there wearing his tartan kilt.  My father was also there, though he didn’t say or do anything which was very much his personality. I don’t recall seeing the child.


Was this communication with our dearly departed?  Or was it my imagination working overtime and transferring images to my dreams?  It is impossible to know, but I do know this. I did not share any of this with anyone. Yet the very next morning our house guests were chatting and one mentioned how she has an employee who is Scottish and an excellent cook.  Her specialty is lasagna.  Coincidence?  Personally, I don’t believe in coincidences.

Saturday, October 15, 2016

Flip the Switch


Very early one Monday morning during my freshman year in college, I was working feverishly to complete a term paper due at 9 that morning. The professor had assigned the paper six weeks earlier. Being a smart guy I had prepared an outline of what I wanted to present and picked up a couple of resource books on the subject from the library. Being not so smart, I saved the research, composition and typing until the weekend before the deadline. Of course it took longer to read the books and complete the paper than I had allowed, resulting in my typing the term paper at 3 AM. When I finished, I read the paper and knew before handing it in that the grade would not be good. I started wondering why I had postponed the assignment until the weekend before it was due. There just wasn’t a good reason.

I don’t recall the topic of the assignment, but I do remember the lesson. In the wee hours that Monday morning I vowed to never again wait until the deadline to complete a project. It was like flipping a switch. I went from procrastinator to doer. I became obsessive about completing assignments immediately. This trait has stuck with me and I have not missed a deadline since. Like a Boy Scout, I am always prepared.

This flip the switch technique has been applied to other areas of my life. When I get up on the wrong side of the bed, so to speak, I take a couple of minutes to determine the cause for my mood. Once identified, I think about something I love and appreciate, and how blessed my life has become by simply applying the laws of attraction. These happy thoughts allow me to flip the switch and release the issue to the Universe thus freeing my mind. They also bring a smile to my face. It’s really difficult to be in a bad mood and smile at the same time.

When I encounter someone who talks down to me, I have an interesting way to let them know their insecurities are showing. I flip their switch. For example, when someone says “I can’t believe you don’t know that” I jokingly respond “That must be one of the seven things I don’t know. Now there are only six.” There’s really not much they can say in response. Usually they get it, realize what they have done, and smile. If not, I remind myself not to downgrade my vibration to theirs.

When another driver cuts me off, my initial reaction borders on road rage.  I catch myself, flip the switch, and let it go. Maybe that driver has an important reason to get to his destination…one car sooner anyway.

One common theme is that I always end up smiling. And it’s hard to be sad, depressed or feel bad when you smile. By always thinking good, happy thoughts, we can keep our vibration high. When negative things happen to positive people, it’s best to flip the switch and regain the vibration that keeps the Laws of Attraction working for us.  And don’t forget to smile. 

Originally published in Meta Arts Magazine, July, 2011.

Thursday, September 1, 2016

Why Worry?

Ever since I saw my first copy of Mad Magazine, I cannot forget the image of Alfred E. Neuman, the magazine’s mascot, famous for his motto “What, Me Worry?”  The magazine is a parody of whatever the editors want to expose, criticizing anyone from comic book characters to the actions of public figures, and satirizing the wars we’ve been involved in, cold or otherwise.  No matter how serious the issue, Alfred’s motto has never wavered.  And in my view, that’s a good thing.

My father was a worrier. He worried about every noise he heard coming from his car. Would there be enough money to pay bills? What if the back yard flooded in a rainstorm? He agonized over everything.

I must have inherited his propensity to worry. A friend pointed out to me that I often say “I’m worried that…” or “I’m concerned about…” It came so naturally I didn’t recognize it in myself. Another friend added “Mike, worry is interest paid on a debt that may never need to be repaid.

Wow!  That started me thinking. Was I really a worrier? The answer was so obvious, yet I couldn’t see it. I had a wonderful wife, great kids, a nice home, and a good job. What did I fear?  I tried to remember what had concerned me in the past and the eventual outcome of each situation. None of my significant worries ever came to pass. There really wasn’t anything worthy of complaint.

Then I read an article on the Law of Attraction. The basic premise is that “Like Attracts Like.” If I worry, I will attract more to worry about.  Really? Think about it. If we are happy we attract happy people to us. If we act sad and grouse about life, we attract other sad and miserable people. (Think about water cooler conversations at work.) Could there be something to the Law of Attraction?

Worried that my Dad worried too much (ha, ha), I thought of a clever tactic. One day as he was expressing his fear du jour, I asked him what he had been worried about one year ago that day. He couldn’t remember. I said “Dad, if you can’t remember what concerned you one year ago, it must not have turned out to be a big deal, so why worry? Just relax and enjoy life.”

Worry can lead to feelings of anxiety or even cause illness, often referred to as dis-ease. Do not agonize over problems involving money, love, health, or career. No amount of worry will help you solve these issues. It is much better to ignore those feelings and replace them with happiness. Bad things happen to everyone. No amount of worry can prevent them or solve them.

The answer to excessive worry is to develop a happy state of mind. For example, when someone agonizes over not having enough money, I suggest they take a dollar bill into a 99 Cent store and say “I can buy anything I want in here.” It changes their vibration from lack and want to one of abundance. With bad relationships I recommend concentrating on the qualities that attracted them to that person and the attributes they have come to love. If that doesn’t change their current relationship, I remind them that Like Attracts Like. Their new state of mind may help them attract someone who does meet their expectations. That’s how I attracted my wife.

As for me, I remember that all my previous worrying was a waste of time; it had no effect on the outcome. I just relax and enjoy life. And guess what - everything always turns out all right. That’s why my mantra is “What, me worry?”

 Originally published in Meta Arts Magazine, September, 2011.

Monday, August 1, 2016

When All Else Fails, Leave It To The Universe

Lynn is a member of our Michigan Law of Attraction Meet-up Group and one of the fastest learners we have had the pleasure to know. She was a teacher over her 17 years taught about a thousand very fortunate students.  Her students and their parents all loved her. Lynn would never admit this, but during her career she became a master at teaching, learning from her students and the world around her. Having command of the teaching profession, she yearned to follow her inner guidance system to do something new and exciting.

As a sideline, Lynn had a passion for buying old houses, fixing them up and selling them.  She wished she could spend more time on the houses and less time teaching.  That would mean retiring from the profession.

In Michigan, the only way for a teacher to retire and receive a full pension is to have 30 years of service and be 55 years of age.  Lynn did not meet either requirement.  She spent hours poring over the regulations looking for a way to retire early with full benefits. There just was no way – at least nothing was apparent to her. 

Lynn believes in the power of manifesting. She knows if we think about something, it is in our minds; therefore we are directing ourselves to its attainment. Lynn did not let the law discourage her desires. Instead, she concentrated on her new passion.

Lynn carefully set her intention to leave the teaching profession with a full pension, locate older homes, fix them up and sell them, all while having fun. She pictured herself doing just that and enjoying the freedom and excitement of learning something new. She played around in her mind with ideas on where and how to locate the homes and new ways to repair and decorate them. Then, in a gesture of release, she threw up her arms and said “Universe, I am leaving this up to you.  I have not found a way, but I know you will provide.  Please allow me to retire early with full benefits so I may pursue my dream.”

A few days later, Lynn was having coffee with fellow teachers. One of them mentioned a temporary “early out” incentive from the State that had to be acted upon within a four-week window. Lynn checked. The window was open, but about to expire. And she qualified!  Lynn was ecstatic and thinks of the experience as a temporary window of opportunity the Universe opened and brought to her attention. She is now retired, spending time on her passion, appreciating every moment, and thanking the Law of Attraction for allowing her new dream to happen.

The Universe has tremendous power to help us attain our desires, especially when we keep our vibration in alignment with those desires.  Even though she faced what appeared to be an impossible situation, Lynn believed in the power of the Universe to bring her what she was deliberately creating.  By practicing the principles of the Law of Attraction, she set her intention, visualized herself retired and living her dream, and then left the solution in the hands of the Universe, allowing it to determine the how and when.  Her intention was so pure, and her belief so strong, it took only a few days to complete her manifestation.  With proper intention and strong belief, the Universe will do the same for anyone.



Immediately after publication, Lynn wrote the following email to me. I think it shows how well the laws of attraction can work if appropriately applied. And remember, Lynn is in Michigan where the housing market was hit the hardest.  And luckily her realtor is a member of our same LOA group.
Hi Mike,
What a pleasure it was to read this article.  It's all so true.. if we can imagine something, and then live with the hope, belief, and expectation that the universe will deliver, it will happen.  I bought a house in November that is almost done and my realtor already has a buyer for it.  Last week I bought another house.  It is great having a realtor who understands manifesting. I really believe our understanding of manifesting gives us an edge on the housing market. I cannot imagine working with a realtor who lacks this knowledge.
Without the influence of Abraham and the meet-up group, I suspect I would still be teaching school and missing all the fun I am having flipping houses. I absolutely love working for myself and creating comfortable homes for people. As I do this work, I have a huge sense of being in alignment. So once again, let me express my appreciation for you and Ramona hosting the meet-up group. What I learned was life changing. 
Lynn

Originally Published in Meta Arts Magazine – January, 2011